A reminder to not be so harsh on yourself

1. You are good; you are not a terrible person. Just remember that. You feel bad about what you’ve done, what ever it was. And that’s ok, that’s more than ok, that shows how much you care, how sorry you are, how you are willing to make things better.

2. You are smart; we all make mistakes, we blurted out hurtful words or didn’t thought before we act. We make mistakes in school, at work, with our family, with our friends, with ourselves. That doesn’t make you stupid, or less worthy. You know what that makes you? It doesn’t matter, because a mistake doesn’t define you. In any way. And you have a brain, and you can learn, and you can start again, because yeah, you are smart and you can do that.

3. You are person;and it’s ok to consider every aspect of it. Your emotions, your thoughts, your fears, your strengths and weaknesses. Because you’re not just a brain, or just emotion, you are whole person. And it’s ok to doubt, and to trust.

4. It’s never too late to say i’m sorry;it always counts. Maybe that person won’t understand it at that moment, but you know you mean it, and that’s important, it’s good to let them, and yourself, hear that. 

5. Time is important;not only to heal, but to use it properly. Use it to learn from your mistakes, not to cry over them over and over again. Use it to feel good with yourself again, and to make other people happy. 

5. You don’t have to punish yourselfit’s ok to be sad, it’s ok to cry and feel angry. But don’t hate yourself, hate is already bad when is towards other person and it’s even worst when is towards yourself. As I said, mistakes doesn’t define you, and you can make it better.

Please. Don’t give up on yourself.

I’ve done some pretty horrible things too, to people who I really love. And I tend to blame them instead of recognizing my own mistakes. Just always remember that after a good cry we can think with clarity again, and you are not bad, you’re just gonna be better now.

xo, Jimena.

(via positiveconnotation)

“ Typically other people’s problems seem simpler, uncomplicated and easier to solve than those of one’s own society. In this context, the decontextualized hunger and homelessness in Haiti, Cambodia or Vietnam is an easy moral choice. Unlike the problems of other societies, the failing inner city schools in Chicago or the haplessness of those living on the fringes in Detroit is connected to larger political narratives. In simple terms, the lack of knowledge of other cultures makes them easier to help.

This imagined simplicity of others’ problems presents a contrast to the intangible burdens of post-industrial societies. Western nations are full of well-fed individuals plagued by less explicit hardships such as the disintegration of communities and the fraying of relationships against the possibilities of endless choices. The burdens of manic consumption and unabated careerism are not as easily pitied as crumbling shanties and begging babies. Against this landscape, volunteerism presents an escape, a rare encounter with an authenticity sorely missed, hardship palpably and physically felt — for a small price. ”